Just leave it at the door

The entire idea of this blog is to explore what happens when you leave the days stress of work life, external family, or friends at the door. What happens when you are present in the relationship. When you learn to share joy instead of stress. When you are engaging in the nurture of the person or the people (if you have children) in your environment.

I have a little habit of writing down my frustrations and stress filled days in a journal just as I walk into my home. I don't want to spend the first moments of being home complaining about workload or an annoying colleague. That day is over, and it has taken eight plus hours to negotiate. It is now time however short to enjoy, laugh, and treasure life.

Don't get me wrong there are going to be times when you need to discuss the hardships of a job, but just don't let it be every day that you are winging and whining through your partners sunshine or your children's accomplishments.

Write that shit down and move on.

It has taken me a lifetime to figure this out. I have practiced this on and off for the last 15 years, and what I have found is when I am not sharing my work experiences with my partner, we have better conversations about just about everything. Now this is not a self-exploration to forget what has transpired in your day. The journal is to be used by everyone in the household. You don't just change your mood by writing it down, but you release the need to share the toxic. Your mood may linger and when someone reads your thought it gives them understanding of what you may be carrying on your shoulders or holding in your mind. Let them decide if it is just blowing off steam or whether a dialogue needs to occur. Let's face it what we may find to be an annoyance may seem trivial or even boring to someone else. There are better conversations to have. Just leave it at the door.

Write that shit down and move on.